Is The American Dream Your Dream?

In yesterday’s article, Stress Relief: Are You Living The Right Life For You?, I wrote about the importance of making choices in your life that will create the best life for you, even if it is contrary to what you thought you wanted or what other people think you should do.

And today, I’m still thinking about that! The Kansas International Film Festival is coming up next month, and they will be showing a new film called, “I’m Fine, Thanks!” It’s a new documentary about the issue of complacency in everyday life. It’s a “collection of stories about life, the choices we all make, and the paths we ultimately decide to follow.”


In the words of the film’s producer, Adam Baker, he wanted the movie to “give thousands of people inspiration to live their lives based on their own hopes and dreams – not someone else’s vision or script for their life. We want to push people to take the first small action to reignite their passions.”

I love this idea! There’s this great line in the trailer, where a woman talks about how important it is to “Live your own dream, not the American dream.” And as someone who has followed her own path, and not the typical college, then marriage, buy a house, followed by 2.2 kids, I’m a big believer in it!

And even if you have followed that path, that doesn’t mean things can’t change if your vision for your life has changed. As people grow and evolve, their wants and needs change too. Foster the natural gifts and passions that you have, and make sure you make the adjustments necessary to live your own dream.

It’s easy to compare yourself to others around you, but only you know what works for you.

When all your neighbors are upsizing their houses and their cars, maybe you will choose to downsize because that gives you financial freedom. When your friends are taking long vacations in exotic locales, maybe you will rent an RV and drive across the country. When your siblings are settling down and having children, maybe you’ll decide kids just aren’t your thing. Just because society in general has created a definition of a successful life path doesn’t mean that definition fits you.

I’m really curious to check out “I’m Fine, Thanks!” when it comes out in theaters. I love to hear how others followed their own paths instead of prescriptions laid out by others. And I think it might just inspire me to find new ways to define my own dreams.

The Constitution only guarantees the American people the right to pursue happiness. You have to catch it yourself. -Benjamin Franklin

Posted on September 12, 2012, in Emotional Health and tagged , , . Bookmark the permalink. 7 Comments.

  1. My life has taken several different paths. At age 44, I still have not achieved the 'Life-Status Known as the American Dream', and I am okay with that. I am happy, I love what I do, I am close to my family, and I get to spend my time doing things which make me (and my clients) happy! : )

  2. Thanks so much for this information Nisha! I really want to check that film out too. Although I have not followed the traditional American Dream path – there are still points in my life where I've thought – "maybe I should do ____ to get ahead / fit in / etc".

    I loved the line in that trailer about climbing the ladder and when she got to the top she realized it was leaning against the wrong wall ;). I can relate to that feeling too!

  3. I believe everyone should have their own dreams and passions. If you try to live someone else's you are setting yourself up to fail for sure!
    Really enjoyed your post NIsha!

  4. I walk my own path. I used to live the so called dream….it was a nightmare. Make your own roads 🙂 That's how I live now..:) Great post!

  5. Oh, I want to see this film! How true that we are guided to follow the same prescription for life that the depression era generation did. Now we are all waking up, stepping out and living our dreams. Thanks for sharing this, Nisha!

  6. I'd like to see this film. I'm hoping I can find it online. I've wasted too much time chasing things that were not my real passions.

  7. I would love to have the freedom of travel and spend my time driving around in my motorhome. I think that would be the 'right life' for me. Just need to win the lotto!

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