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If Any Dream Was Possible, Which Would You Choose?

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I’ve been thinking a lot lately about what’s important to me, assessing what things I still feel I need to accomplish in this life, and trying to figure out if I’m living a life that moves me toward realizing those dreams. This has all been spurred by a few things, including the fact that my husband and I are in the process of turning a major dream into a reality, and in the last week we have taken some big steps where we can finally see how it’s all going to (hopefully) fall into place.

Sometimes I do these little self-checks, where I think about:

  1. What’s important to me?
  2. What do I really want to do?
  3. Am I doing that, or at least moving in that direction?
  4. Am I realizing my dreams, or is my life becoming stagnant?

I really think it’s so easy to get complacent, keep living your regular day-to-day life, and just get by on “it’s fine” rather than “This is what I really want!”

Are you doing what you need to do to get to what you really want? If you aren’t entirely sure what those things might be, you can start by making a list of what’s important to you.

It might be more time with your kids or more time to yourself or more flexibility in your schedule. Or it might be something that feeds your soul in a different way, like learning to play a musical instrument, or spending time doing volunteer work. Or maybe even something bigger like completely changing your career or moving to another country.

If you haven’t made a bucket list, that can help a lot with your self-assessment. Meanwhile, here are some questions you can ask yourself to try to get in touch with what really matters to you:

  • What did you used to love to do as a kid?
  • What have you always wanted to be really good at? A sport? Fluency in a foreign language? Something else?
  • When have you been happiest? Who were you with, and what were you doing?
  • When you daydream, what do you usually think about?
  • What’s the best (and most reliable) way you know to recharge your batteries?
  • What do you hope is different in your life in one year? What about in five years?

Like me, you probably sometimes get little reminders about how short life is. Try to “check in” with yourself on a regular basis and ask yourself if you are doing the things that will get you to your dreams and bring you the most joy. It’s easy to get stuck in the day-to-day, but it’s also so important to always keep an eye on the big picture.