How you talk to yourself is very important, and it can be the key to your self-esteem. Regardless of the messages you received from others while growing up, and regardless of what you hear from others in your life now, what’s most important is how you feel about yourself.
You can insulate yourself from the criticism of others by taking good care of your own self-image.
So my Just For Today challenge for you is to Compliment Yourself! And not just once! 🙂 You can set an alert on your phone for every hour, and when it goes off – compliment yourself! Or you can plan to compliment yourself every time you go by a mirror, or before and after each meal, or whatever intervals you think you can remember.
What You’ll Accomplish
It may sound too simple to work, but the reality is that the more you crowd your brain with positive thoughts about yourself, the more you push out negative ones. And, the more you bolster yourself, the more resistant you are to self-doubt and also to the criticisms of others.
It doesn’t matter what the compliment is. It’s the act itself that matters. When you give yourself a compliment, you are actively examining your strengths, which can increase both your self-esteem and self-confidence. Over the course of the day, you’ll realize your focus is on your strengths and positive traits, and you won’t be spending time dwelling on the things you like less about yourself.
You’ll get other benefits from self-complimenting too. For one thing, your day will be punctuated with little self-confidence boosts, you will find yourself complimenting other people more (making them feel good about themselves), and you will probably become more positive because you have shifted your center of attention to noticing positive things.
You might even find that you stand up a little straighter, become more confident, and attract more positive energy your way. Those are a lot of benefits from a few acts requiring little effort, wouldn’t you say? Give it a try. Here are some ideas to get you started:
Self-Compliments – Where To Start
Your self-compliments can be big or small, but don’t put too much pressure on yourself to say something momentous each time.
I love my eyes/smile/freckles – or anything else you love about physical yourself.
I am beautiful inside and out.
I’m a great conversationalist, even with people I don’t know.
The Little Things Count!
I love my laugh.
I did a great job getting everyone to school and work on time today.
I’m a better golfer than any of my golfing buddies.
I showed interminable patience with that telemarketer today!
That was the best meal I cooked all week!
My hair looks so shiny today!
I tell the best jokes.
These shoes make my calves look awesome!
I rock at trivia/horseshoes/darts/poker.
I hope you’ll have fun giving yourself compliments. You don’t need to commit to doing them every day. But, Just For Today, give yourself a bunch of self-compliments and see how you feel!